Here we are! June 1st. We are officially one week into summer break.
To date we’ve:
- gone fishing
- thrown water balloons
- watched Pete’s Dragon and ate popcorn
- skipped every single nap
- coach pitch practice
- played a coach pitch baseball game
- played one t-ball game
- tossed the Frisbee
- grilled the last 4/7 nights
- played catch
- rode bikes
- went for walks
- played in puddles
- planted flowers and tomatoes
- started summer chores which include weeding the garden and being in charge of his/her own laundry
- missed our bedtime by at least 1.5hrs every single night
- Memorial Day festivities – parade, bouncy house, 5K color run
- Memorial Day visit to the cemetery to pay respects to our military and loved ones
- ran thru the sprinkler – two different days
- helped on the farm
frustratedassisted this working mom at the office.
Whew… It’s already June 1st!
This morning I ran into a friend at the coffee shop. I don’t normally hit the coffee shop, but we are celebrating a birthday at our house today. He requested a breakfast bowl from Kettle and thus my stop.
We were talking about our summers and what we have planned. Her boys are close in age to my own crew. Her schedule sounded like it was packed with fun, but BUSY. She teaches at the local college, so she has her summers at home with the guys. They have baseball and camps and practices and reading programs and…
When she asked about our summer, I said yes – we have baseball two nights a week in the month of June. We also have one basketball camp planned for a couple mornings in July and some swim lessons when we can squeeze them in. That was pretty much it. I chose to say no to everything else.
We said no to the reading program at the library. We said no to any extra academic camps. We said no soccer camp. We said no to traveling baseball. We said no to pretty much everything else.
And it feels GOOD.
Saying NO is how we said YES to all the other things we’ve done the past week.
A few months ago, I was getting the message loud and clear that I needed to prioritize my family’s time. C’mon!!! Three different books – all with the same message – being given to me in the same week by three unique individuals?!
Yesterday, my devotion included the message of choosing WHERE to be busy with my time. This message goes for my children as well. Do I want my children to choose being busy on a tablet or in front of the TV?
The complaint from my littles at the office yesterday was that they were bored. B.O.R.E.D. They wanted entertainment. More so, they wanted ME to entertain them.
Nope. Nada. Not happening. This fits firmly under the category of “Not my duty as a parent.” I explained (again) to them that I gave birth twice so they would have each other as playmates. Furthermore, they have fabulous imaginations, working eyes, legs, and arms, and a safe environment to enjoy within a block of the office. I can see them on the basketball court thru the window from my desk.
“Go outside and entertain yourselves! Create something new!”
It’s a big beautiful world out there! Kids, choose to be busy having the freedom of childhood and making memories instead of leveling up. If as children, he/she wants to spend free time practicing, that’s fine. It’s personal choice. I balk at the idea of scheduling their summers full of activities and requirements (other than normal family responsibilities – you aren’t getting out of your chores that easy!).
This summer break, we are opting to say NO, so that we can choose to say YES to quality time and fun together.
My kids will hopefully see less of this view and more of me face to face, laughing, playing, and actually being. Not just as mom – the harried, working, hustling-everybody-everywhere driver.